The Parts That Really Broke Me Were Going Through The Pain Of Labour Knowing My Baby Was Already Gone-Toolz

OAP Tolu Oniru-Demuren, aka Toolz, has opened up on her miscarriage and the issues that followed In the May 2018 issue of Genevieve Magazine.

Excerpts include:

“From the point we found out something was wrong till when the process was over was quite harrowing, but the parts that really broke me were going through the pain of labour knowing my baby was already gone. I also had a mini-break down when I had to get a death certificate so we could have a burial.

“I don’t think I’ve ever cried so much in my life. It made me realise how delicate life is, and as much as we say ‘I will do this or that’ it is inevitably down to God’s will.

“In December I wrote that everyone will go through trying times, you just have to pray for the strength to get through it. That’s what God gave me, strength to get through a very horrible experience.”

On how her husband, Tunde Demuren played his role as a strong support system, Toolz said:

“I think this experience brought us closer, and also made us realize how much we love each other. He made me pray, and he didn’t give up till I had emptied my heart out.”

Toolz also revealed she was making Tunde’s breakfast when she had to be rushed away in an ambulance.

“I actually went into labour whilst I was making his breakfast. I tried to finish because he is such a big foodie, but the pain was too much and I was bundled off in the ambulance.

Maybe it was the gas and air or temporary insanity, but I remember asking the medics to stop so we could get some food for him. They thought I was mad. We can laugh about that now.”

An intra-uterine fetal death is when a baby dies in the uterus (womb) before it’s born. This can sadly happen during the last half of pregnancy.